This time last year I had just returned from Hawaii where I had the great honor of learning from the late Wayne Dyer at the Hay House Writer's workshop. Wayne's words have been on my mind this week as I have been gearing back into creation mode after my break in Indonesia. Wayne talked about one of the his key motivators in life being a message he wrote to himself after reading Leo Tolstoy's "The death off Ivan Illycich" which had been given to him by his Uncle Bill. (you can hear Wayne talk about this here https://vimeo.com/19672457)
The message was " Don't die with your music still in you".
This statement resonates with me on so many levels. We all have so much unshared and untapped talent, wisdom and insight that we keep to ourselves and don't express. We hold on to our gold because of feelings of not being good enough. We let our fears get in the way of what it is we truly want to do or be in our lives.
I bet even in this very moment as you are reading this you are aware of a part of yourself that you don't give life to, or a talent or desire that you keep on the back burner. You allow your job or circumstances to take precedent over what you really love and what you are really good at.
Sometimes we just get in our own way. We are afraid of what other people will think or what it will mean for our lives or our families.
I totally understand this.
I get it.
I have done it myself and still do in certain areas, although less and less.
For me, losing some very precious souls over the years has shown me how much it costs us mentally, physically and emotionally to deny parts of ourselves, to deny what we truly desire. I have been struck by how much the world has lost when these same loved ones have passed without ever really sharing themselves fully with the world.
It breaks my heart to know that others won't remember them for who they really were, they will only remember who it was they were allowed to see.
It broke my heart until I realised I could do something about it.
I could be part of the solution not part of the problem. I could do something about it by sharing myself more fully with the world. By sharing my talents and skills and by showing up as myself, no cover up, no disguise, no what is "acceptable".
I could do something about it by supporting others to share their music too.
It has felt scary. It has felt vulnerable and it still does some days but it has also lead me into a new career that I love. It has given me the job of supporting others to share themselves with the world. To share their music from a foundation of what feels right for them and what is true for them.
I have been given the gift of self-examination. I have 46 years of experience of calling myself to understand more, to feel more, to do more and to be more. Life has become my toolbox for working with others, for uncovering truth, values, deciphering the code of fears and blocks and stuckness.
I am intimately acquainted with the challenges of change and loss and grief. My painful experiences serve as a balm to soothe and hold others through their own. I feel very blessed to walk this path.
I feel blessed that I can honor those I have lost and support those who feel called to work with me through my own understanding of why this is so important. Why you and me, and you and you, and you and you all have something very special to bring to the world, to your family, to your community and most importantly to yourself.
Your impact as an individual in this life you are living can never be underestimated.
So let's write that symphony that's inside you. Let's gather the notes that are your music and find a way to bring it forward, to let your melody out into the world.
It's never too late to answer that call within. It's never too late to become more of who you are in any aspect of your life. Get support, make a change and most of all don't die with your music still in you!
My name is Paula McFarlane and I am an Aligned Feminine Business Coach. I help women business owners get in alignment with their values, mission and big purpose. I do this through virtual and live group coaching programs, one on one coaching , workshops and writing.